Persuasive Communication Skills

One skill separates great communicators from average ones: Perspective-taking. The ability to see things from someone else’s point of view. But most people do it wrong. Here’s how to do it right, especially when you’re leading or being led: When you’re the boss, persuading down: You’re trying to convince Maria on your team to do something different. She’s pushing back. Your instinct might be to assert your authority. But that’s a mistake. Here’s why… Research shows: The more powerful you feel, the worse your perspective-taking becomes. More power = less understanding. So if you want to persuade Maria, don’t lean into your title. Do the opposite: dial your power down, just briefly. Try this: Before the next conversation, remind yourself: Maria has power too. I need her buy-in. Maybe she sees something I don’t. Lower your feelings of power to raise your perspective. From that place, ask: → What does she see that I’m missing? → What might be in her way? → What’s a win-win outcome? That shift changes the entire dynamic. Instead of steamrolling, you’re collaborating. And that’s how you earn trust and results. Now flip it. You’re the employee persuading your boss. It’s a high-stakes moment. You’re nervous. So do you appeal to emotion? No. Drop the feelings. Focus on interests. Here’s the key question: “What’s in it for them?” Not how you feel. Not your big dream. → Will it save time? → Improve performance? → Help them hit their goals? Make it about their world, not yours. Why? Because every boss has a mental shortcut: → Does this employee make my life easier or harder? Be the person who brings clarity, ideas, and upside. Not complaints, drama, or friction. In summary: → Persuading down? Dial down your power to see clearer. → Persuading up? Focus on their interests, not your emotions. Perspective-taking is a superpower, if you learn how to use it. Now practice, practice, practice.

I used to dread negotiations early in my career... Then I realized: Being a strong negotiator isn’t about confrontation. It’s about developing the right frameworks. Here are five game-changing approaches to  negotiate every deal more effectively: 🤝 The 4 Phases Framework (h/t: Roy Lewicki) Great negotiators don’t jump straight to bargaining.  They follow a structured process: • Preparation (lay the groundwork) • Information Exchange (build mutual understanding) • Bargaining (explore potential solutions) • Commitment (secure the agreement) 💪 The BATNA Strategy (h/t: Roger Fisher & William Ury) Your power in any negotiation comes from knowing  your Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement (BATNA). It’s your safety net, your source of confidence.  Always define it before you start. 🎯 The Negotiation Matrix (h/t: Lewicki & Hiam) Different situations call for different strategies: • High stakes? Compete. • Building a long-term relationship? Collaborate. • Minor issue? Avoidance might be best. • The relationship is too critical? Accommodate. • Both matter equally? Compromise. 🤔 The Harvard Principled Negotiation Method (h/t: Fisher, Ury & Patton) This is a game-changer: Focus on interests, not positions. Instead of asking what they want, ask why they want it. That’s where real value creation happens. 🎯 The ZOPA Framework (h/t: Fisher & Ury) The Zone of Possible Agreement (ZOPA) is where deals get made. Understanding both sides’ limits helps you identify common ground. Everything else? It's just noise. Key takeaway: The best deals happen when both sides feel heard. And the most successful negotiators aren’t the most aggressive. They’re simply the most prepared. ♻️ Find this valuable? Repost to your network. 💡 Follow Eric Partaker for more on business & leadership.

I constantly get recruiter reachouts from big tech companies and top AI startups- even when I’m not actively job hunting or listed as “Open to Work.” That’s because over the years, I’ve consciously put in the effort to build a clear and consistent presence on LinkedIn- one that reflects what I do, what I care about, and the kind of work I want to be known for. And the best part? It’s something anyone can do- with the right strategy and a bit of consistency. If you’re tired of applying to dozens of jobs with no reply, here are 5 powerful LinkedIn upgrades that will make recruiters come to you: 1. Quietly activate “Open to Work” Even if you’re not searching, turning this on boosts your visibility in recruiter filters. → Turn it on under your profile → “Open to” → “Finding a new job” → Choose “Recruiters only” visibility → Specify target titles and locations clearly (e.g., “Machine Learning Engineer – Computer Vision, Remote”) Why it works: Recruiters rely on this filter to find passive yet qualified candidates. 2. Treat your headline like SEO + your elevator pitch Your headline is key real estate- use it to clearly communicate role, expertise, and value. Weak example: “Software Developer at XYZ Company” → Generic and not searchable. Strong example: “ML Engineer | Computer Vision for Autonomous Systems | PyTorch, TensorRT Specialist” → Role: ML Engineer → Niche: computer vision in autonomous systems → Tools: PyTorch, TensorRT This structure reflects best practices from experts who recommend combining role, specialization, technical skills, and context to stand out. 3. Upgrade your visuals to build trust → Use a crisp headshot: natural light, simple background, friendly expression → Add a banner that reinforces your brand: you working, speaking, or a tagline with tools/logos Why it works: Clean visuals increase profile views and instantly project credibility. 4. Rewrite your “About” section as a human story Skip the bullet list, tell a narrative in three parts: → Intro: “I’m an ML engineer specializing in computer vision models for autonomous systems.” → Expertise: “I build end‑to‑end pipelines using PyTorch and TensorRT, optimizing real‑time inference for edge deployment.” → Motivation: “I’m passionate about enabling safer autonomy through efficient vision AI, let’s connect if you’re building in that space.” Why it works: Authentic storytelling creates memorability and emotional resonance . 5. Be the advocate for your work Make your profile act like a portfolio, not just a resume. → Under each role, add 2–4 bullet points with measurable outcomes and tools (e.g., “Reduced inference latency by 35% using INT8 quantization in TensorRT”) → In the Featured section, highlight demos, whitepapers, GitHub repos, or tech talks Give yourself five intentional profile upgrades this week. Then sit back and watch recruiters start reaching you, even in today’s competitive market.

My team and I once tried to hand-wave our way past Jeff Bezos with a large headcount request. He asked one question, was disappointed by the answer, and dug deeper. After a weak answer to question two, it was game over. Jeff declared that he trusted NONE of our proposal and sent us back, telling us, "Break down your requests to no more than 2 or 3 heads, tops, per line item. Then explain exactly what these small buckets will do." Once we did this, he went through the request line by line, telling us what we could and could not have. Overall, it was probably the most brutal experience I had with him in my 15 years at Amazon. While some people will read this and feel it was micromanagement, he was entirely right. We thought we had a blank check, so we made a big, broad funding request. We learned very quickly that while Jeff supported our mission, he expected us to spend "his" money carefully. Most people think executive influence happens in the room, by talking slick or having the right alliances. While communication and connections are hugely important, most of your influence is built before the meeting starts. Getting executive buy-in comes from understanding your executives, anticipating their concerns, and structuring your message around what they value. Here are two quick specifics: 1. Preparation If you walk into a key stakeholder meeting without preparing, like I did, you’ve already lost. The first step in preparation is clarity: What are you trying to achieve, by when, and why now? Then, define exactly what you’re asking for: a decision, resources, or permission to move forward. Finally, decode the humans. What does each stakeholder care about? What do they fear? How do they make decisions? Build your case in their language and plan your approach with intention. 2. Focus on Facts Executives are moved by accurate, outcome-driven facts. Shortly after this disastrous headcount audit, I was asked to lead the global expansion of the Kindle Appstore. This required taking 55 engineers away from other executive leaders to staff our rush effort. Our team won support by anchoring on three facts: (1) Kindle’s success in the U.S. was undeniable (2) The holiday deadline couldn’t move (3) Leadership had already approved a one-year draft to make it happen. Those facts aligned perfectly with what executives valued most: growth, timing, and company priority. If you master these skills, you’ll earn trust and support from senior leaders. In large organizations, this translates to success in your projects and success in your career. I've written a much more in depth Newsletter that covers these skills and more: https://lnkd.in/geEBPazP When have you either fallen into hand-waving or had to call your team on it?

Most marketers don’t know what an insight is. And it shows. We’re drowning in data, trends, and decks of charts. But most of it is useless. Here’s the brutal truth: Data = Numbers on a page. (OK) Observation = “Oat milk sales are up.” (Yawn) Trend = “Plant-based is growing.” (Blind Freddy could see that) Insight = “Shoppers are switching to oat milk because it feels healthier and more sustainable than dairy.” That one sentence? That’s where growth comes from. An insight is not something you read in Nielsen. It’s the sharp “why” behind behaviour. It’s rare, valuable, and worth millions when you get it right. Most marketers confuse data with insight. That’s like confusing a shopping list with a three-course meal. One feeds you, the other doesn’t. And let’s be clear: if your “insight” could be copy-pasted from a LinkedIn carousel with pastel graphics, it’s not an insight. It’s marketing wallpaper. Examples of insights that built brands: Coke Zero Sugar: Saw “diet” was toxic, so reframed the offer. Now worth billions. Dove: Saw women were alienated by beauty ads. Built Real Beauty, and built category leadership. Red Bull: Saw people didn’t want a drink, they wanted an edge. Created a whole new category.   How to actually find a real insight (not the fluff most marketers call one): 👂 Get out of the office. Stop staring at dashboards and start talking to consumers. Go into homes, watch how people shop, sit at the dinner table or go into a few stores. You’ll learn more from one hour in front of a consumer than from 10 PowerPoint decks. 🔍 Look for contradictions. Insights usually hide in tension: “They say they want healthy, but they buy indulgent.” “They say they care about sustainability, but only if the price is right.” That gap is where opportunity lives. 📊 Stop worshipping data. Data tells you what is happening, never why. Treating data like insight is like mistaking the weather forecast for a holiday. 🧩 Connect across culture. Insights don’t come from a single dataset. They come when you combine consumer behaviour with wider cultural shifts. Example: plant-based eating didn’t explode because of soy milk — it rode the wave of climate anxiety + health + foodie culture colliding. 🚦 Test for action. A good “insight” is useless if it doesn’t drive different behaviour. If it doesn’t change your strategy, your comms, or your innovation pipeline, it isn’t an insight, it’s trivia. ✂️ Be ruthless. Kill weak insights. If it’s just “consumers like convenience,” bin it. That’s not an insight, that’s a horoscope. Most marketers stop at “interesting.” The best marketers push to the uncomfortable “why.” That’s where the money is. So let’s see it. 👉 Drop the best consumer or shopper insight you’ve seen in the comments. I’ll call BS on the weak ones.

We just closed a $480K deal at Aligned - our biggest ever. But twice in the final weeks, it almost died. It was brutal. Two execs came out of nowhere with objections. We had no access. No time to fix it. But 22 (!!) stakeholders had already been engaged… And they saved it. That’s when it hit me: Multithreading isn’t a tactic. It’s deal insurance. Here’s the exact playbook we now run in every complex deal: 1. Early Exec-to-Exec Sponsorship Don’t wait until sh*t hits the fan. Initiate VP-VP or CXO-CXO alignment early. We send short, supportive emails without direct asks. Time after time, that builds genuine trust and establishes a safety net long before we need it. 2. Identify ‘Hidden Stakeholders’ Buyers often silently forward materials internally. By using Deal Rooms, we uncover up to 68% more stakeholders, often the real decision-makers influencing budget approvals or strategic buy-in. 3. Isolate Stakeholders 11 people on a call? You’re NOT multithreaded - it’s about quality, not volume. Our team opens separate 1:1 convos. They follow up with each buyer with next steps, suggestions or value that ties to something they said. 4. Proactive Signal-Based Engagement When stakeholders interact with key assets in the deal room, we use those signals to trigger follow ups - e.g. RevOps spends 20min on CRM integration; they might need more info, or could benefit from a dedicated session. 5. Multiple Champions Strategy Nothing beats having an army of internal champions instead of one. Whenever we see an opportunity to build champions, we do it. It derisks the deal in case someone leaves. Plus, budgets are shared, or are just easier to pass. 6. Real-time Alerts on New Stakeholders Our deal room sends instant alerts whenever there’s a new stakeholder (see #2). We then leverage this event as an opportunity for exec introductions or quick alignment note—”Hey, saw you joined the project”. 7. Support the Above-the-Line (ATL) Met an exec early? Keep them looped into POC updates, key milestones, or call takeaways. When we give regular status updates, it builds credibility and keeps momentum - as execs don't join every call, and appreciate the visibility. 8. Never Underestimate Below-the-Line (BTL) Decision-making today is flatter; end-users/junior stakeholders are increasingly influential. I’ve lost count on how many times AEs (our BTL buyers) were make or break in our deals. Give them genuine attention. Don’t underestimate any buyer. 9. Late-Stage Exec Reinforcement If a deal stalls, a concise, confident, personal email from me as CEO resets urgency. The message isn't pushy; it reinforces our shared vision, driving commitment. —— Multithreading isn’t a tactic. It’s insurance. A deal defense system. Built thread by thread, stakeholder by stakeholder. So when things break, and they will - You’re not the only one left to save it. P.S. The Deal Room we used to multithread is Aligned. It's free to try: https://lnkd.in/dYksGnfb

Found this 1980 ad about writing clearly. 65 years later, it's still the best writing advice I've ever seen: 1) Know exactly what you want to say before you start Most people start writing and figure it out as they go. That's why most writing sucks. Thompson says outline first, write second. Revolutionary concept, apparently. 2) Start where your readers are, not where you are Don't assume people know what you know. Meet them at their level of understanding, then bring them along. Most "experts" write for other experts and wonder why nobody gets it. 3) Use familiar word combinations Thompson's example: A scientist wrote "The biota exhibited a one hundred percent mortality response." Translation: "All the fish died." Stop trying to sound smart. Start trying to be clear. 4) Arrange your points logically Put the most important stuff first. Then the next most important. Then the least important. Seems obvious, but most people do it backwards. 5) Use "first-degree" words Thompson says some words bring immediate images to mind. Others need to be "translated" through first-degree words before you see them. "Precipitation" => "Rain" "Utilize" => "Use" "Facilitate" => "Help" 6) Cut the jargon Thompson warns against words and phrases "known only to people with specific knowledge or interests." If your mom wouldn't understand it, rewrite it. 7) Think like your reader, not like yourself Thompson asks: "Do they detract from clarity?" Most writers ask: "Do I sound professional?" Wrong question. TAKEAWAY: This ad is from 1960. The internet didn't exist. Social media wasn't even a concept. But the principles of clear communication haven't changed. Most people still can't write clearly because they're trying to impress instead of express.

85% feel anxious stepping in front of an audience. And that’s perfectly normal. But here’s the thing: Leadership isn’t about having the loudest voice – it’s about commanding attention with confidence and clarity. Here’s how to do exactly that - even if speaking in public makes you nervous: 🔹 Grab Attention Fast You only get 10 seconds before people switch off. Skip the “Thanks for having me.” Lead with something bold, surprising, or personal. 👉 Example: “Everything you believe about leadership? It’s likely wrong.” 🔹 Command the Stage Your non-verbal cues speak before you open your mouth. Stand upright, hold eye contact, and pause intentionally. This signals authority - even if you’re nervous inside. 🔹 Slow Down and Stay Clear Anxious speakers often race through words. Slow down. Keep sentences sharp and pause often.  Remember: Impactful communication is about connection, not perfection. 🔹 Create Interaction, Not a Performance Forget memorizing scripts. Instead, invite your audience into the conversation.  👉 Example: “Who here has faced this challenge before?” 🔹 Leverage the BMW Principle True confidence = Body + Mind + Words working in harmony. BODY: Breathe, ground yourself, and use meaningful gestures. MIND: Focus on serving your audience, not impressing them. WORDS: Be clear, avoid fillers, and embrace pauses. 👉 Example: Before stepping up, pause, ground your feet, and remind yourself – they need this message. 🔹 Handle Q&A Like a Leader Q&A often derails weak communicators.  Use the ABC Technique to stay on message: A: Answer briefly. B: Bridge to your key point. C: Communicate with clarity. 🔹 Close with Impact Too many talks fade at the end. Be intentional. End with a single clear takeaway and inspire action.  👉 Example: “If you remember one thing — let it be this: [insert key idea here].” Leadership isn’t about loving public speaking. It’s about making people listen. 💡 What’s your best tip for owning the room? Share it below ⬇️ 📌 Follow me, Oliver Aust, for daily leadership communication insights that make people listen.

I love the idea of middle-aged women (like me) claiming their power and having a positive impact on the world. But new research by Prof. Jennifer Chatman and her colleagues shows that along with perceptions of having impact can come a penalty for appearing less warm. And this likeability penalty can result in lower ratings, despite having the chops to do the job. All along the career ladder, women contend with the likeability-competence tradeoff. That means when they appear warm and helpful, they are not perceived to be competent. Or if they drive results, they are not perceived to be supportive of others. This is also called the likeability penalty: women doing the job required for success can be penalized. And on the flipside, men are not likely to face this penalty. While this dynamic is larger than any individual (and in many cases, built into definitions of success), there is much we can do to change the game. ✔ As individuals, we can stop responding to our “gut reaction” -- if we notice ourselves reacting negatively to a strong, assertive woman, take a pause. Ask, “Am I just reacting to the likeability penalty?” And consider giving her the benefit of the doubt. Leadership does require getting stuff done. Why act negatively to women doing their jobs? ✔ As teams, question negative evaluations of women’s communication styles. At the Stanford VMware Women's Leadership Innovation Lab, we created a framework in which we help leaders “value” the same behavior equitably. If you notice people negatively responding to a woman behaving the same way men behave, stop, and ensure you value behaviors the same for all. ✔ Last, become versed in questioning the likeability penalty when you hear it. I remember my younger self speaking negatively about a powerful woman I did not know. Her allies talked to me about the penalty. I was stunned at my own behavior. How could I, and advocate for gender equality, fall into the trap? Ever since that day, I speak up when I hear unwarranted likeability-penalty comments. In my career, so many powerful women have had my back. I hope I can do the same for others. Now that I am middle-aged, I can see much clearer that only together, can we have a positive impact on the world. Thank you to Jennifer Chatman, Daron Sharps, PhD, Sonya Mishra, Laura Kray, PhD, Michael S.North and University of California, Berkeley, Haas School of Business for this research. #womenleaders #diversityequityandinclusion #leadership

Last night, former President Obama and First Lady Michelle reminded us of the power of compelling storytelling in their speeches at the Democratic National Convention. But what’s the secret behind these moments of excellence? Jon Favreau, Obama’s former director of speechwriting, shared five golden rules that are just as applicable to our business presentations as they are to political speeches. Here are five insights you can apply when delivering your next presentation, whether on stage, in a meeting, or in the boardroom: 1. The story is more important than the words Too often, we focus on the right words, but the real question is, “What story am I telling?” Before writing a speech, Favreau would always begin with a conversation, drawing on Obama’s ability to outline a clear narrative first and build the words around it. Always start with the story you’re trying to convey—it’s the backbone of your message. 2. Keep it simple Long presentations may feel thorough, but they are often forgettable. Favreau emphasized brevity: aim for twenty minutes or less. "A speech about everything is a speech about nothing." Narrow your message down to the essential points. 3. Address counterarguments upfront Don’t wait for the Q&A to address objections. In business, as in politics, it's key to acknowledge opposing views and deal with them during your presentation. When Obama delivered his Health Care Reform Plan, he anticipated objections and tackled them head-on. 4. Empathy is key Knowing your audience isn’t enough. You have to step into their shoes. Obama’s speeches resonated because they were written in a language his audience understood. Whether you're presenting to colleagues, clients, or an entire audience, connect by understanding their challenges and perspectives. 5. Persuasion requires inspiration Logic alone won’t motivate. The best way to connect is through stories that touch the heart. In Obama’s 2008 victory speech, Favreau chose the story of Ann Nixon Cooper, a 106-year-old woman who had seen the full spectrum of progress in America. Her story was the perfect reminder that change, though slow, is always possible. Whether you're stepping on stage or presenting in the boardroom, these timeless tips from Obama’s speechwriting playbook can help you connect with your audience, deliver your message effectively, and inspire action. What stories are you sharing in your presentations? #Leadership #PublicSpeaking #Storytelling #Empathy #Inspiration