Find the root

I've been thinking a lot this past week about root causes. About the fundamental reasons we behave the way we do. Why we have the limiting beliefs we have. Why we repeat certain cycles over and over again in our lives.

Let me start by saying that I believe that everything that happens in my life is my fault. I take full responsibility for the good and the bad! Recently, I found myself in a situation where I'd given my power away to a person I hoped would become a mentor. He is an established player in a field that I am just entering and I was so excited when he presented the idea of partnering with him on a new venture. This partnership, however, turned into a series of bait and switch conversations over the course of 15 months until I finally realized that:

1. After getting to know him better I was more fascinated by the idea of partnering with him than actually working with him.
2. I had known this for at least 6 months but had decided that the potential benefits outweighed my concerns.
3. I stayed engaged because I sought validation from him for my decision to dive into this new area of business.
4. He is probably stringing me along.

The root cause for me was the story I had been telling myself for two years after a devastating financial loss (including my life savings) at the end of 2017. I told myself that it was my fault that I trusted the wrong people and that the experience was evidence that I could not trust myself and that I needed a mentor to help me navigate my business life moving forward. So when I met this potential partner and mentor I assumed that he was the person that filled this need in my life. I latched on and held tight in fear that I may never have the opportunity again to connect with someone who saw my potential.

I forgot about my own greatness and allowed a life circumstance to change my view of who I am.

The point - The sun shines on us all and the rain pours on us all. When we fail at something it is right to evaluate what we can do better - but we should never forget that we are still the driver of our life. Never relinquish your power to someone else. And if you find that you have - simply take it back!