Leadership lesson: Building trust before having tough conversations

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Here’s a leadership lesson I had to learn the hard way: Sometimes the moment slips by — because the relationship wasn’t strong enough yet. A while back, I was leading a strategic initiative with a cross-functional team. Two members — both Black men — were consistently missing key meetings. And as a Black man myself, I felt a deep, personal responsibility to lead through it well. Eventually, I reached out to one of them for a one-on-one. He was apologetic. Took ownership. Promised to do better. But the truth is: I didn’t say everything I meant to say. I wanted to name how his presence matters — not just for the project, but for how Black male leadership is seen, honored, and respected in spaces like ours. I wanted to say: We need you here. I see you. And others are watching. But I didn’t. Why? Because I hadn’t done enough to build a foundation of trust with him. We hadn’t built enough relationship — and I wasn’t sure the message would land the way I intended. I’ve learned since then: Courageous conversations rely on consistent connection. If the relationship isn’t there, even the best intentions can falter. Have you ever missed the moment because the relationship wasn’t ready yet? What helped you do it differently next time? Let’s normalize reflecting on the moments we wish we’d led better — and using them to grow. 👇🏾

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