I keep a simple rule for investors: if you disrespect a founder's time before you've written a check, I won't introduce you to another one. This week it happened again. Founder visiting a city for a few days. An in-person meeting was confirmed with an investor. She promised to message him that morning. Nothing came. Ten minutes before the meeting, she switches to Zoom. The founder rearranged his trip around this. She just didn't care. And look, I get it. Investors are busy, schedules shift, and things come up. But "things came up" ten minutes before a meeting you confirmed with someone who flew in? That's telling someone their time doesn't matter. I run a capital advisory. My job is connecting companies to capital. Cutting an investor off costs me potential deals. I do it anyway. Because putting a founder in front of someone who treats them like this is worse than no introduction at all. The founders who end up with great cap tables aren't the ones who said yes to everyone. They're the ones who said no at the right moment. This was the right moment. What would you have done? Taken the Zoom call or walked? // I'm Niclas, building spectup into a new kind of capital advisory. Follow along if you're raising, investing, or just curious how the game really works.
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This story looks complex. Is this the first time the investor has done this, or is this recurrent? Because sometimes things come up. If this happens only once, it is easier to forgive than recurrent behavior. But from the way I see things, you look like an organized person, and this investor does not seem very organized, assuming her behavior is recurrent. A lot of people have a messy lifestyle. My take here is that instead of trying to define who is right or wrong, maybe you could match them. Messy people often like messy people. Sometimes I am amazed by how easily they bond and create effective partnerships within the messiness. If it works for them, let it be. But I would not introduce a messy investor to an organized founder. That type of founder would probably feel offended.
Well, I would have walked away too. A ten-minute pivot from an in-person meeting to a Zoom call is like an operational failure that I wouldn't accept from a team member, let alone a potential financial partner. 👏
Same principle on the operator side. We've walked away from investor meetings where the capital was real but the behavior signaled problems downstream. One family office kept rescheduling our Zoom — four times in three weeks. We stopped responding. Two months later they came back, met us on our terms, and became one of our best LPs. The operators who tolerate disrespect early end up with investors who micromanage the renovation budget. The relationship dynamic you set before the check clears is the one you live with for the next 18 months.
I really appreciate your perspective on the relationship between investors and founders. I’ve seen this happen many times in outsourcing as well, where clients who paid for the team’s hours or for a project would act unprofessionally, simply because they were the ones paying. And in my experience, these relationships never went very far, because if you don’t respect the other side from the very beginning and don’t truly act as a partner, then the relationship won’t last long.
Many founders spend months chasing capital. The reality is that capital is not the only thing being evaluated in the room. Founders evaluate investors too. How someone handles communication, commitments, and other people's time often tells you more about a future partnership than what is written on a term sheet. Money scales businesses.Trust scales relationships.
One investor told me that he doesn't care about the founder story, he cares only about the numbers. I replied to him that I didn't care to speak with him then. Sometimes the amount of disrespect is just amazing in this industry.
The more top-tier you would be, more you will respect the hustle of a founder who flew in to pitch. 🙌
This applies beyond startups. The way a capital partner behaves before commitment is often an early signal of how they will behave when the deal gets difficult. Respect for time, clarity, responsiveness and basic professionalism are part of diligence too. Bad capital can cost more than no capital.
📍 Well, nothing to rant or brag here, but my reputation is built on the quality of the network I curate, not just the volume of deals I close. I will always choose protecting a founder over chasing a disrespectful check. And same goes other way 😊