Handle rejection with courage

The fear of rejection is a major reason we resist asking for help or for information. Nobody likes to be told no. So what do we do? We avoid it altogether. The truth is how we handle rejection may help us grow stronger. So here are a few practice tips. Practice asking for things you're not sure you will receive. Start with small, trivial requests like asking for bagging help at the grocery store or requesting a discount on a purchase. These asks make it rejected, but the goal here is to get used to be hearing the word no. When you are told no, manage your external and internal dialogue. So instead of focusing on the negativity, praise yourself for trying to think about the next opportunity. Keep your response positive. Saying things like, well, I thought I'd ask anyway and keep the self-talk uplifted. I tried and I'm building my strength. Now make bigger asks. As you build confidence, progress to more challenging asks, like requesting to use a friend's car or asking a colleague for a favor. Be sure to ask without apologizing. The purpose here is to become more tolerant of rejection. Finally, build to tougher asks. Now and then, make a bigger, realistic ask, like requesting for better workspace or new equipment or work, stretching yourself in areas where rejection is likely builds your courage. Handling rejection with courage involves building your tolerance to it. Repeat the skill of asking and be mindful and positive with your self-talk.