Skills are never just skills. They become confidence. Clarity. Presence. The ability to walk into a room and share something that matters. This is why we do what we do.
100+ keynotes, talks, panels, etc. and this… THIS… has never happened. At last week’s International Mentoring Association conference I presented brand new material that I hadn’t showed a soul besides my wife. I always show her my stuff first when I think it’s about ready because she’s seen everything I’ve ever spoken about and she pulls no punches regarding feedback. I always pour over my thoughts, stories, and the pictures selected in an almost obsessive manner. I worry about the graphics, the order, the transitions, the color palette, a catchy intro… everything. And I only use pictures - I don’t like to put words on the screen. That forces a different style of presenting that won’t allow me to “hide beside” the screen as they read instead of listening to and staring right at me. I always rehearse a ton. In the car. In the shower. In our office. I’ve now also started to write almost verbatim what I think I want to say as it helps to encode it all to memory because I don’t like to use notes. I’m always nervous. It’s a default… but it’s also a consistent reminder of how much I care and how complacency and overconfidence are the enemy. I take them all seriously but this talk was an important one. I’ve wanted to present about the topic for quite some time. Fortuitously, I attended a LifeHikes® event in December with Arda I. and Bill Hoogterp and they not only gave me “cherry on the top” techniques, they pushed me to create what became a 2-min intro to the very idea I’ve long wanted to present, placing me right where I needed to be to pull together this discussion. And then it happened. And it went pretty well. And my peers and colleagues said that it was the best. And they gave me stuff. Lol. I’m so glad that the hard work continues to pay off and that this talk was deemed impactful. I’m really honored. Kelvin K. Riddle, Ed.D. Lisa Z. Fain Chris Slininger Michelle Beaulieu-Hancock Nora Dominguez Tamara Thorpe Chris Pfund Lori Crever Linda Searby