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    We have already built relationships. We all get along great and mess around a lot on MOST days. I'm not talking about always trying to fill the silence. We all need quiet time. But we're around each other a lot, so it's important to get along and have fun. Commented Oct 1, 2020 at 14:14
  • I don't understand, I thought the premise of the post is that you are trying to build a relationship through this interaction. You mess around with the person you are describing on most days? Or you just mean everyone else? Bc I am talking about the person you made the post about. Commented Oct 2, 2020 at 16:08
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    @ellenoid correction, it's important that both of you are feeling good about the situation. You continue to problematically view this through the lens of your own desires only, without considering the clearly apparent difference of the other person's needs on the days they are less willing. In a modern society, when people disagree if they wish to engage in a joint social interaction, the person who does not want to participate is the one who gets their way, as the opposite of forcing undesired interaction on someone is simply not acceptable. Commented Oct 2, 2020 at 19:59
  • The person I made the post about is usually fun and playful with me. We have been "relationship building." Of course there are quieter moments and tired days. I'm just saying that usually things are a lot of fun. That's the personality I'm used to with him. But sometimes there are days where little interaction is made. And if I try to engage even minimally, I don't get much back. And that can be very awkward. It is absolutely NOT that he doesn't like me or "associates me with displeasure." I'm not trying to force anything. Commented Oct 3, 2020 at 16:15
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    He's already giving you what you want. It's completely unreasonable to expect it from him literally every day. It sounds like you want to go beyond just team building type of stuff to where everyone in the workplace is on good terms and actively want entertainment of you to be a regular, core part of his job. It is unreasonable and you need to let go of it. Commented Oct 4, 2020 at 5:15