From 'Lost' to 'Found'

What do you do when you feel lost?

No motivation. No goals pulling you on their side. No view of the future your heart is willing to look at.

All you want to do is ...... nothing.

You think of goals. They stare you in your face. You know the value of achieving them. But you still prefer to sit idle. Scroll. Watch endless TV. Indulge in a mindless time-waster.

You feel like nothing excites you. Nothing engages you. Nothing fills your soul.

You feel a void. Empitness. Total loss.

You start questioning your self-worth. You begin to avoid tough questions. Critical conversations. With yourself and others. You start breaking your promises, first with yourself and then with others. You become casual. Feels like you don’t care anymore.

You stop looking at the long-term impact of your actions. This feeling of purposelessness drains your energy. You feel exhausted. You then feel tired of running from yourself, your responsibilities, and from the ‘future you’, you have the potential to become.

Don’t worry. You are not alone. How do I know?

Because I have been there. For a long period. More than once. I have also been telling myself, ‘It’s all over’, ‘I don’t deserve success’', ‘I don’t have what it takes to climb the ladder’, ‘nothing motivates me’.

And then something happened. My life changed. Beyond my expectations.

So, what should you do?

My answer?

Nothing.

Do nothing.

Stay in this state. Don’t rush.

Here is what I would like you to do next. (without leaving your current place).

1.     Acknowledge your state.

Know exactly where you are. Admit it. Feel it. Know you are in a dig. Tell yourself what you feel. Own your emotions.

Be honest. Be brutal. Express exactly how it feels to be where you are. Don’t exaggerate. Don’t underestimate. Don’t hide.

Tell yourself if you are down, depressed, angry, frustrated, drained, or empty. Don’t run away from your feelings. Accept them. Wholeheartedly.

Because knowing where you are is the first step to landing at a better destination.

2.     Know your ask

Ask yourself, ‘Do you want to stay here’?

No matter how much you think you love being here, deep down you hate being here. In the heart of your hearts, you don’t want this life. You want something else. You want something better. It's just that you are hurt. You are disappointed. With yourself. With others around you. But you know, this is not what you wish to experience. You know you deserve better than this.

So, what’s better for you? Tell yourself.

Explain it to yourself. In detail. Make a picture of what your daily life should look like. How your day should begin and end. Who would you love to meet? What would you like to experience? What would you enjoy the most? What would you like yourself to get exposed to? What will excite you? Eating? Adventuring? Traveling? Exploring?

See yourself talking to your true self. What does it need? What does it tell you? Knowing your ask is the surest path to joy.

3.     Talk about it

See, I didn’t say do something about it. Just talk about it. Choose to talk to yourself about it. In detail. Then with a friend. With someone you trust.

Write about it. Turn this into a movie script. Choose the characters. Find the actors around you. See who can play some role in your movie. Assign them the roles in your mind only.

See them playing their role perfectly.

Watch this as a masterpiece in your mind. Experience the thrill. The drama. The mystery. The romance. The adventure. Enrich the plot. Make it even more exciting and engaging.

See this film over and over again. Add music. Add effects. Fall in love with this movie.

4.     Shoot the first shot

Start. From anywhere. With anyone. Prepare for the first shot. Shoot. Even if it's the solo shot. Even though it is a three-second shot. Re-take if you didn’t like it. keep re-taking. Until you feel happy with your performance.

See it happening. See yourself moving. One shot at a time. One dialogue at a time. One co-actor at a time. One scene at a time.

Celebrate the first move. Enjoy the first step. Cherish the first recording.

Keep adding actors. Keep adding scenarios. Keep filming. Keep shooting. One piece at a time.

You will be surprised soon. Because the life you saw in your imagination will become your reality. Quicker than you can imagine.

The movie that you saw in your mind’s screen will be witnessed by the world. This will surely be a blockbuster.

How do I know?

My personal experience.

You just take one shot at a time.